I've seen so many yayas come and go from my siblings' and cousins' children. Some of them stay long and some dont. Some of them has good values and characters and some you can curse. Some will teach your kids good deeds and some does not even know their responsibilities as yaya.
Now that I have my own kids, searching for a yaya has never been difficult for me. After 4 years of marriage, I have now two kids. My eldest is now 3 years old and my youngest is 1. I have two yayas, luckily, since me and my husband are both working and we just moved out of my inlaws house. The older yaya has been with us for almost three years now. She has been with us when my eldest daughter is just a month and a half old. At first, I had a hard time of trusting her with my firstborn. Looking at her physically, I am rattled with a cold nerve. She is in her early 40s, around 150lbs body frame with dark skin and a brusque physique. Not that I havea choice that time but giving the person a chance to prove herself is what is on my mind.
Now, we are on our third year relationship with our yaya. Our yaya being older than me and my husband has never been that big of a problem. There are times that she acts as our big sister and sometimes the tendency to act as "know it all" but still, I honor her because little by little, throughout the three years of being together she slowly open herself to us. We correct her not only the duty-bound responsibilities but as well as her life per se. Though it is hard for her somehow, she tried her best to follow. It is a little difficult for her and us at first though since the age factor is there already but someshow, we both manage to adjust with one another.
Yaya as we all call her, has been very good to our family especially the kids. She has her own flaws like her long time of phone calls to a lot of friends. And the friendliness she possess with almost every people she meet. She is really friendly to almost anyone and everyone. But she has been good with my kids.
Though the age factor gets in our way, I always make it a point that I assert authority to them especially in dealing with my kids. Respect is an important factor for any relationship. This is maybe one of the reason why our yayas stay with us. I respect them for what they are and in return they respect me. I listen to them and to their needs as an individual. As a person, I believe that they have to grow too. And I give them opportunity to explore their life.
Handling yaya is the same as having a relationship with a friend, boss, neighbor. It is a two way process. Though you have to emphasize your authority to them, you have learn to trust them and listen to them. You have to know them. Knowing your yaya is an important factor. So, get to know your yaya now.
Monday, February 22, 2010
Saturday, February 20, 2010
AGE FOR MARRYING
Is there such a thing as a right age for marriage? Does anyone know when is the perfect timing for marriage? Is there a right and a wrong age for marriage?
Many of us will say 23 or 25 is the right age to marry but we cannot control the feelings of other individuals. Some were forced to marry at a young age due to teenage pregnancy and some due to arranged marriage. And some are to marry at a very old age or shall we say late bloomer. Some due to second or third marriages that their previous marriage did not work out.
But what if a couple to get marriage has a 20-year gap or more? Or what if one of the couples' age is the same as the age of the eldest or youngest child of the other couple? Nowadays, this kind of situation is not uncommon. Many celebrities here and abroad share this situation and they are happy. Calista Flockhart and Harrison Ford for instance, Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher, Kris Aquino and James Yap, Tony Boy Cojuanco and Gretchen Barreto.
They are happy with their relationship and yet the age factor does not affect their relationship. Although for some, there are lots of adjustment to be made.
In any relationship there will be no right and wrong. It will always revolved within the couple, their happiness will lies within their own acceptance whether there will be age gap or not. In all ages of relationship, acceptance, respect and love are the important factor to make a relationship going.
Many of us will say 23 or 25 is the right age to marry but we cannot control the feelings of other individuals. Some were forced to marry at a young age due to teenage pregnancy and some due to arranged marriage. And some are to marry at a very old age or shall we say late bloomer. Some due to second or third marriages that their previous marriage did not work out.
But what if a couple to get marriage has a 20-year gap or more? Or what if one of the couples' age is the same as the age of the eldest or youngest child of the other couple? Nowadays, this kind of situation is not uncommon. Many celebrities here and abroad share this situation and they are happy. Calista Flockhart and Harrison Ford for instance, Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher, Kris Aquino and James Yap, Tony Boy Cojuanco and Gretchen Barreto.
They are happy with their relationship and yet the age factor does not affect their relationship. Although for some, there are lots of adjustment to be made.
In any relationship there will be no right and wrong. It will always revolved within the couple, their happiness will lies within their own acceptance whether there will be age gap or not. In all ages of relationship, acceptance, respect and love are the important factor to make a relationship going.
Thursday, February 18, 2010
MOVING SOLO.
Come February 24, it will be our 1 month anniversary from moving out of my inlaws' house and moving in to an apartment near my workplace. After living together in my inlaws house for more than 4 years, it was a rather difficult decision to make for me and my husband.
Moving solo is definitely not easy especially when you have two kids in tow. Being dependent to your family wherever side you choose to stay will somehow make a parasite in you. You always tend to share expenses and problems so it makes everything easier somehow.
Moving out is like starting all over again, starting from scratch or being back to zero but the big difference now for us is that we already have kids that we have to consider. One good thing though is that they are small enough not to question our decision.... hahaha..
Realization took place during the day we moved out. We only have the basics of everything and we do not even have our own ref!!!! But nevertheless, we survived our first week going solo. Good thing a lot of Save More grocery store are popping and popping from places to places that you would not miss the mall and I do not have to go to the wet market for the daily dinner.
Moving solo has its advantages and disadvantages. It gives you freedom, a lot of it. Freedom in doing things that you are not able to do before when you are under the roof of your family or relatives. You can have your own menu for the week. My kids eat whatever food is on the table. i gotta take care of my own family. The responsibility of taking care of my usband and my kids are always prioritized. And i can wake up a little later than anyone of you... hahaha... The only disavantage I can think of is the burden of expenses when the bills comes up. hahaha. Who would not want to share expenses???
So for those couple who are planning to get married, I just have one advice for you: go solo once you got married! It will be a completely different set up and experience but definitely it will be a good one for you.
Moving solo is definitely not easy especially when you have two kids in tow. Being dependent to your family wherever side you choose to stay will somehow make a parasite in you. You always tend to share expenses and problems so it makes everything easier somehow.
Moving out is like starting all over again, starting from scratch or being back to zero but the big difference now for us is that we already have kids that we have to consider. One good thing though is that they are small enough not to question our decision.... hahaha..
Realization took place during the day we moved out. We only have the basics of everything and we do not even have our own ref!!!! But nevertheless, we survived our first week going solo. Good thing a lot of Save More grocery store are popping and popping from places to places that you would not miss the mall and I do not have to go to the wet market for the daily dinner.
Moving solo has its advantages and disadvantages. It gives you freedom, a lot of it. Freedom in doing things that you are not able to do before when you are under the roof of your family or relatives. You can have your own menu for the week. My kids eat whatever food is on the table. i gotta take care of my own family. The responsibility of taking care of my usband and my kids are always prioritized. And i can wake up a little later than anyone of you... hahaha... The only disavantage I can think of is the burden of expenses when the bills comes up. hahaha. Who would not want to share expenses???
So for those couple who are planning to get married, I just have one advice for you: go solo once you got married! It will be a completely different set up and experience but definitely it will be a good one for you.
Wednesday, February 17, 2010
WALKING PNEUMONIA ANYONE?
Does anyone of you heard of "walking pneumonia"?
This is a term now use to describe a mild type of pneumonia in which one afflicted does not require to be confined in bed or in a hospital. It can also be referred to as viral pneumonia. In whichever case, they are both mild, are able to work or walk. This cases can be treated by the regular antibiotics. One does not have to undergo chest x-ray to diagnose.
Just the past weekend, both my children were diagnosed to have pneumonia. Funny thing is, for my youngest, except for the cough, you cannot see anymore symptom that manifested in him. Just the plain simple cough. It can be with fever or without. As for my eldest, it was not diagnosed soon as pneumonia. The fever worsen and my little lost her appetite. The xray confirmed the pneumonia and just after that she was given her medication.
This is a term now use to describe a mild type of pneumonia in which one afflicted does not require to be confined in bed or in a hospital. It can also be referred to as viral pneumonia. In whichever case, they are both mild, are able to work or walk. This cases can be treated by the regular antibiotics. One does not have to undergo chest x-ray to diagnose.
Just the past weekend, both my children were diagnosed to have pneumonia. Funny thing is, for my youngest, except for the cough, you cannot see anymore symptom that manifested in him. Just the plain simple cough. It can be with fever or without. As for my eldest, it was not diagnosed soon as pneumonia. The fever worsen and my little lost her appetite. The xray confirmed the pneumonia and just after that she was given her medication.
Tuesday, February 16, 2010
Skin Cancer - common or not?
Who said that only the Caucasian are prone to skin cancer?
Do you know that Filipinos as well are all at risk to skin cancer. There are said to be three (3) types of skin cancer but the commonest of all is what you called Basal Cell Carcinoma. And you do not have to be caucasian to acquire this kind of disease.
In this article, I would share and focus on this type of cancer which personally I am aware of. No, I do not have the disease but one member of my family does. The Basal Cell Carcinoma is the most common skin cancer, it is rarely fatal but it can do damages to the surrounding skin and to the bones (which is likely common). This type of cancer usually develop to the skin mostly expose in the sun, usually the head, neck, arms and legs. Of course the most common cause of this cancer is the Ultra Violet (UV) ray which comes from the sun but as well as does that comes from the flourescent lamp although not as much as the ray from the sun can do.
This type of cancer starts up as a flat, brown-colored patch (could be scaly or not). It is usually difficult to distinguish from other sores or lesion because it does not manifest as one as soon as they develop. Sometimes for a long time that could be months or even years that it will just stay the same and no growth can be noticed. There are times that it grows in size but very minimal. For some, it can grow as big like half the size of a golf ball. To be able to diagnose this, one really has to undergo a skin biopsy.
Signs and symptoms could be bleeding, itchiness, pain but depending on the patient itself. It can very much affect the person if the lesion develops in his/her face.
There are three options for treatment of this type of skin cancer:
1. Surgical removal of the lesion
2. MOH's microsurgery
3. Imiquimod (aldara) cream
For the first option, depending on the size of the lesion and where the lesion is located but it can be done with local or general anesthesia. If you already have identified one while the lesion is small, this is the best option to take. The second option is not always readily available and it might be a little costly since not all dermatologist do this type of microsurgery. The last option is to apply imiquimod cream usually 5 times a week for 6 weeks with two day rest in between. The cream will cost you 350 a sachet and this sachet is good for one use only but I have visited some website that says it can be used for two days at least. The sachet is very small. You have to wash the area where you will apply this as well the hands that will apply the cream to the area. There can be redness, swelling (not so much), itchiness or pain.
As for my dear lola's case, we choose option three. Her lesion develop in her forehead years back never realizing it will be cancer. It manifested first as a small brown patch then later got bigger (probably 1inch by 1 inch). Fortunately it presents itself as a flat lesion. We got worried when one time upon washing her face, we found some blood on the lesion. We have it biopsied and confirmed it as Basal Skin Cancer. We are now on our third week of applying imiquimod cream and the lesion is responding well. Though it has been said that there are reactions while applying the medicine, for my lola's case, only redness, a little itchiness but no pain whatsoever.
This is just a reminder for all of us that we should never neglect our health and we should always do routine consultation.
Do you know that Filipinos as well are all at risk to skin cancer. There are said to be three (3) types of skin cancer but the commonest of all is what you called Basal Cell Carcinoma. And you do not have to be caucasian to acquire this kind of disease.
In this article, I would share and focus on this type of cancer which personally I am aware of. No, I do not have the disease but one member of my family does. The Basal Cell Carcinoma is the most common skin cancer, it is rarely fatal but it can do damages to the surrounding skin and to the bones (which is likely common). This type of cancer usually develop to the skin mostly expose in the sun, usually the head, neck, arms and legs. Of course the most common cause of this cancer is the Ultra Violet (UV) ray which comes from the sun but as well as does that comes from the flourescent lamp although not as much as the ray from the sun can do.
This type of cancer starts up as a flat, brown-colored patch (could be scaly or not). It is usually difficult to distinguish from other sores or lesion because it does not manifest as one as soon as they develop. Sometimes for a long time that could be months or even years that it will just stay the same and no growth can be noticed. There are times that it grows in size but very minimal. For some, it can grow as big like half the size of a golf ball. To be able to diagnose this, one really has to undergo a skin biopsy.
Signs and symptoms could be bleeding, itchiness, pain but depending on the patient itself. It can very much affect the person if the lesion develops in his/her face.
There are three options for treatment of this type of skin cancer:
1. Surgical removal of the lesion
2. MOH's microsurgery
3. Imiquimod (aldara) cream
For the first option, depending on the size of the lesion and where the lesion is located but it can be done with local or general anesthesia. If you already have identified one while the lesion is small, this is the best option to take. The second option is not always readily available and it might be a little costly since not all dermatologist do this type of microsurgery. The last option is to apply imiquimod cream usually 5 times a week for 6 weeks with two day rest in between. The cream will cost you 350 a sachet and this sachet is good for one use only but I have visited some website that says it can be used for two days at least. The sachet is very small. You have to wash the area where you will apply this as well the hands that will apply the cream to the area. There can be redness, swelling (not so much), itchiness or pain.
As for my dear lola's case, we choose option three. Her lesion develop in her forehead years back never realizing it will be cancer. It manifested first as a small brown patch then later got bigger (probably 1inch by 1 inch). Fortunately it presents itself as a flat lesion. We got worried when one time upon washing her face, we found some blood on the lesion. We have it biopsied and confirmed it as Basal Skin Cancer. We are now on our third week of applying imiquimod cream and the lesion is responding well. Though it has been said that there are reactions while applying the medicine, for my lola's case, only redness, a little itchiness but no pain whatsoever.
This is just a reminder for all of us that we should never neglect our health and we should always do routine consultation.
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